Beginners Guide: How to Use a Vibrator

vibrator for womenWe talk sometimes about sex toys and the importance of masturbation that never went through our heads that people may not know exactly how that works. The answer may be obvious, but learning how to use a vibrator may not be the easiest thing in the world for some women.

The truth is that as the subject of masturbation is still a gigantic taboo around the world, assuming that people know how to use a vibrator is not a certain thing. Surely, there are women out there who have never seen one up close. There is nothing wrong with that, it is just a matter of how open we are to learn about a subject that has long been viewed with evil eyes.

Therefore, to help anyone who has not got a clue what to do with such an accessory, we thought that would be a good idea to give some tips on its application, almost a step-by-step guide.

But, before we get into the hardcore, just a quick question: Have you acquired a vibrator or a dildo? Please note that there is a difference between dildos and vibrators. Dildos are manufactured, normally in the shape of a penis or in a similar shape. Dildos are not battery or power operated. They can be made from silicone, plastic, latex or even glass.

Vibrators, the other hand, as the name implies uses batteries or power connection to vibrate. It is an electronic device, also in the shape of penis or otherwise, can massage internally and externally and are basically made from the same material as a dildo.

Learning how to use a vibrator

Get to know your toy

The first step is to understand which kind of vibrator you got: the model you bought is for clitoral or vaginal stimulation? Is it focused on the G-spot? Read the specifications and know for which region it is most suitable. Also, read the instruction manual: Many vibrators today come with settings for you to change the intensity of vibration or impulse. You can test different intensities on the palm of your hand or forearm to know which one you feel most comfortable.

Set the mood

Just like having unwanted sex, using a vibrator while not being excited enough can have the same effect and be highly uncomfortable. Do what you usually do to feel excited beforehand: watch a porn movie, read erotic tales, fantasize someone, touch your own body… Make sure you are in the mood and feel like masturbating before putting the vibrator between your legs. You can use the accessory to continue teasing, running it between the breasts, over your belly…

Use lubricant

Lubricant is not only useful when you have sex with penetration. It can be highly beneficial when using a vibrator as well, because it makes the toy slide easily into the vaginal cavity (even more important if you are using it alone, in yourself). It pays to get a lubricant that is specific to sex toys (yes, they do exist).

Start slowly

When you are ready to put the vibrator in the vaginal area, the main tip is: start slowly. Set the vibration in a constant pattern and less intense. These toys can be very powerful and if you do not have the habit of using them, you can feel very uncomfortable and give them up due to the startle. Go slowly and you can always increase intensity later on the play section.

Find out the level of contact you really like

Now is the time to know the type of contact you prefer and want between your vibrator and yourself. There are women who like to place the toy directly in the region they want to stimulate, others prefer a lighter contact in the area of the lips, others still prefer to use it while still wearing their underwear.

It all depends on what makes you more comfortable. It is even valid to put a sheet or towel around the vibrator to better control the intensity and the proximity of the toy with your own body.

Learning how to use the vibrator is a matter of trial and error. Go slowly discovering how you feel more stimulated and closer to orgasm. The important thing is that you enjoy the pleasure you can give yourself and understand that not every vibrator necessarily requires a penetration; on the contrary, many of them are made for external stimuli. Have fun!

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