I, of course, have a ton of material on how to meet women. And a lot of you have almost no trouble meeting women – or at least meeting some women. That’s not where the problem is for a lot of guys. It’s what comes next.
Among other things, I do a lot of consultations for a living. I talk to men from all over the world and from all walks of life. There’s men from Alaska, London, Belgium, Ireland, L.A., India – you name it. Some of them are in college. Some of them are corporate types, some work at 7-11, and a few are pretty famous and successful.
And it doesn’t matter who they are or where they come from – they all call me with the same problem.
And it always has to do with this “one girl”.
This one special woman, who they can’t seem to crack.
It isn’t a woman they haven’t met or are afraid to meet. No – it’s a woman that is already in their life. And things started out with her just fine for a day or two…and now…all of a sudden….it’s been months of broken plans, no sex, unreturned phone calls…and…
Well, all manner of flaky behavior has been described to me – but it all boils down to the fact that this one special gal all of a sudden has all the power. And she’s toying with these guys. To the point that they are driven to distraction, frustration and confusion. And they finally call me, and say, “Maya, she’s doing this and that and I’m doing this and that…and and…oh oh oh….”
And I have to stop them right there. Okay. Cool it.
Let’s take a step back.
The reason I always stop them is because I’ve heard this story a million times. Every one of these guys wants to make her his personal sex bunny, but she’s busy breaking their plans to get together – again.
And they always tell me that never break plans with her, and they are always available for her – but she keeps cancelling or not answering calls.
So it’s evident to me that there is a contingent of men that have no trouble meeting women. A lot of what I teach is how to meet women, sure, and a lot of men need that coaching. But when it comes to what to do after you’ve got her number – well, that’s where millions of men are right now.
What to do? It was all going so well! Now it’s been months of frustration. Help! Why does she treat me like this? What am I doing wrong??!
Here’s where you went wrong, gents.
First of all – when you started out our conversation with, “There’s this ONE GIRL…”
That right there is breaking a Cardinal rule of being the type of man that controls his women and is not controlled by them.
When you get zeroed-in on one woman, all of a sudden you’ve convinced yourself that she is special and unique above all others. That you may not even have any options outside of her.
You’ve really put her on a pedestal.
And in short, you start to become obsessed.
This obsession stems from this simple, easy pattern that happens all the time – and I want you to pay attention, because this is what you should be doing to HER, not having it happen to you…
You walk up. You meet her. You’ve demonstrated some confidence just because you were able to approach her. She likes that. You get her number. Maybe you even get a smooch. You call her, you take her on a date. Man, this is going great! You can’t wait to bang the crap out of her.
Then it happens.
She gets bored and you get obsessed. She dumps the guy.
Then after months of frustration, sometimes these guys call me. And they want to know what to say to her, or how to get her back.
And while that’s very doable it’s really missing the point. And what we have to address is how you got into this situation in the first place. And that’s where the real work comes in.
You see, there are a ton of what I call Famous Attraction Gurus who teach guys their tricks for how to MEET women. And lots of guys are able to finally meet women – but they really have no idea what to do with them once they have. And they can’t figure out what’s going on.
And that’s where I come in.
Because while I can teach anybody how to meet a women in any situation, what I really want is for you to be able to keep her at your beck and call as you please – not end up frustrated and obsessing over her.
Here’s where all the other pickup programs fail.
She decides when and if you have sex.
She starts to fake out on dates and plans.
She suggests you see other people.
She has all the power.
You have no control.
You obsess over where she is, what she’s doing.
She seems like she could care less.
She eventually uses you or dumps you.
She should be obsessing over you – not the other way around. And you should have anywhere from 2 to 12 women on tap at anytime – not relying on one woman’s approval or text message to make you feel better.
You must have the proper mindset and attitude – before you ever meet her – if you don’t want to end up frustrated again and again.
Pick up lines and strategies to meet women are nice – but they are temporary. They are just one phase of the game. A new mindset – the Attitude – is forever. And it takes care of everything else from beginning to end.